My Friend D's Hellish Hysterectomy.
Ok, first about D's hysterectomy sans tummy tuck. She decided against it.
So she had her hysterectomy and they could not stop the pain. She said it was worse than labor pain. No drug eased her pain and finally they gave her demoral or however you spell it which did a little bit for the pain.
So a week later her boyfriend-doctor-surgeon-dude wants to check out her incision scar and change her bandages, when low and behold, he says "Oh my god!" and she had totally popped open. Dr. F, my old obgyn and the dude that did her hysterectomy, hadn't stitched her like he should've. You're supposed to do three layers of stitching. He did one, the last layer of skin. So you could see totally internally inside her. So boyfriend-doctor-surgeon-dude calls a big hospital (which is about 10 minutes from her house and he works there too) and had them put together a bag of stuff to fix D up. And boyfriend-doctor-surgeon-dude turns D's bedroom into a work area. Big fat honkin light in her room and totally sutured her up. Like it should've been done.
Now, D's a good person. So is boyfriend-doctor-surgeon-dude. He's married. Soon to be unmamarried. His soon to be ex wife is due with their baby anytime soon. Before, I would have been OH MY GOD HOW TERRIBLE. Now I know in life that things aren't always black and white. I'm not at all saying that everyone should act on their impulses. D doesn't. The boyfriend-doctor-surgeon-dude doesn't either. He and his spouse probably shouldn't have gotten married in the first place. And yeah, you can say he should stay with his wife and all that. And fuck yeah, I can't even imagine what that would be like. Actually I can. I had an asshole first husband who was a dick in our first marriage and the 1st pregnancy was hell and I think he has sex with someone else. But as for boyfriend-doctor-surgeon-dude, he's not a bad person. Not an asshole. And the surface things seem a certain way. And until you know the entire story...well. You know how it goes.
It's a messed up triangle. D feels terrible and has tried breaking things off with him 3 times. He has completely made his decision. And he couldn't continue on like this and told his wife everything. And she was pretty matter-of-fact at first. And is taking it hard. And it's a bad thing for everyone. But here's a woman, pregnant, not even had the kid, and she's faced with the dad not loving her. Don't think D isn't thinking about that. And boyfriend-doctor-surgeon-dude says now that he knows what he knows, he can't go back to her and live with her.
I dunno people. Try and keep the drama out of your lives.
Got stability?